I remember the discussion you link - I was a bit more active on the forum these days. Have a look at the response to your own question here.
We could say that the announcement of 4.4 for September 2016 maybe was premature, and a good example how things work differently than anticipated. Again, I really do understand all the difficulties mentioned.
I hope you understand that I am asking you to consider how communications looked from the side of everyone on this thread, and the general audience. We didn’t know that you had a internal discussion about dropping support. Some who went looking have found your [updates on the process] (Latest news [11-07-2017] and FAQ - Fairphone 1 KitKat 4.4.4 update). Which, of course, doesn’t mention anything about stopping the efforts.
But no, I don’t find it weird at all to proactively tell people that you are discussing internally. (Why should it?) I guess that many FP1 owners would have liked to know that the option of droppign support was on the table. Personally, I don’t see that it would have harmed Fairphone’s decision process, nor the company. It appears that you are of a different opinion, and I assume that the team has discussed this.
So that’s that.
My whish for FP2 customers is: if you discuss if and when to drop support, both for hardware and software independently, tell them early and in short and concise words.
No long blogpost, no apologetic explanations, just facts. You’ve got their mail addresses.